Welcome to Kibitzing with Kytherea! Whether you're looking for guidance and support or just help settling a specific problem or dilemma, Kibitzing with Kytherea offers something for everyone.
There are many obstacles and barriers that we have to face in life. We have the choice to confront them and overcome them or deny them and remain troubled. Many times it is the fear of the unknown that causes us to remain comfortable in our chaos. Let Kytherea help you face the unknown and guide you on your journey.
Are you a wood elf in love with a dark elf and your parents just won't understand? Are you a troll who rather eat vegetables then a nice juicy gnome and are afraid to admit it? Are you looking for a way to tell a guild mate that passing gas in the guild hall pool to make bubbles is not funny, it is just disgusting? It is Kytherea's desire to make you feel safe and secure as you explore issues of all types. She wants to provide you with support and advice in hopes of alleviating your problems and making each day more productive.
Send your problems by email to Kytherea at cdelzer@soe.sony.com with "Kibitzing with Kytherea" as the subject. Kibitzing with Kytherea will be a weekly feature on EQPlayers and will be scheduled to appear on Monday afternoons.
NOTE: This is a role play feature that is intended for entertainment purposes only!
Dear Kytherea,
I wrote to you a few weeks ago about a problem with my personal life. I decided to take your advice and for the first time I opened up. I shared all of my feelings, thoughts and desires with the young half-elf who stole my heart. After a long and deep conversation ranging from religion to politics to ethics we have come to a greater understanding. I appreciate her cunning more than ever and I know I love her more now than I ever thought possible. Thank you so much for guiding us on our life path.
However, I am writing you today beseeching your council on another matter completely. A couple of moons ago as the snow pounded the Ice Ocean we caught a glimpse of a massive turtle. Several people had rallied to fight the beast and we offered a hand. Seemingly greatly appreciative we joined in the fray and soon after fell the beast. It was decided that since everyone helped we would draw lots to see who received what part of the spoils. As luck would have it my lady friend won a small trophy. However before she could claim her prize a nasty little gnome fellow stuffed all the belongings in his pack and scurried off.
I pride myself on not being quick to anger but this act of defiance awoke a rage I had not felt since my youth. To make matters worse he used very vulgar and offensive language to everyone who attended the mini outing. He even sent my lady friend private glances insinuating that she had to "earn" the loot in some other manner that I do not wish to discuss..
My query is how do rational and gentle spirits deal with all the blind greed and evil in the world? Everyone there cried out for divine intervention but the Gods were silent. The interloper has no doubt hawked the goods by now... which would have been little more than a trophy with only sentimental value to those involved... it is not the value of what was lost... it is the belligerent act and manner in which it was conducted that I wish to put an end to.
Any help would be appreciated,
Lost Faith
Lost Faith,
Many beings are quite selfish and think not of the feelings of others. They see only how heavy thier coin purse will be when looking at goods that can be gathered from encounters across Norrath. They think not of how their actions will affect another adventurer nor how their actions will ultimately affect their reputation.
While it is likely too late to gain recompense from this greedy little gnome, word of mouth is a great way to make sure others are well aware of his actions in your group. This would be the rational way to handle this fellow, make sure many pople are aware of his actions. Soon he will have a difficult time finding anyone who will trust him anywhere near a pile of trophies waiting to be awarded to their rightful owners.
Sincerely,
Kytherea
Dear Kytherea,
My problem is that I am married to a half-elf warrior. You might say that is not a problem, but I am a dark elf shadow knight. You can see the problems already but it gets worse. My wife's brother, a bard, was over heard bashing our marriage by my sister, a necro, while drinking in a tavern. He was very drunk at the time so my sister decided to sacrifice him. She is also totally against it too but has such hatred towards all elves and half elves. Luckily I was going into this tavern after finishing a raid in the Plane of Storms. I have a servant, a slave but my wife hates that word, whom is a cleric. I had her rez the drunken bard quickly. He was still under the influence of the alcohol, so I told him he was in a brawl.
Now here is the major problem, there were a few other half elves in this tavern and I am sure one of them might know the bard. How do I tell my wife with out her going all crazy? Should I not tell her? I mean he was rez'ed and might not remember, should I take that chance even?
Thanks,
Dark Elf in a daze
Dear Dark Elf in a daze,
Your wife is bound to find out about the happenings in the bar that night and you would probably be best served to tell her yourself instead of letting her find out from some other bar patrons. The truth from you will probably be much better then some exagerated tale from other inebriated witnesses.
I doubt there is an easy way to tell her about the untimely demise of her brother, even though you did have the good fortune of happening upon the incident in time to rectify things before more harm was done. My suggestion is to just to tell her straight forward. While your sister's actions were by no means appropriate her brother was also exhibiting poor judgement in his actions as well.
Once your wife has calmed down from hearing about the incident, I am sure your honesty and candor will strengthen your relationship thnen together you can approach the two offending family members to discuss their actions and how it has affected your relationships with both of them and with each other. Family members often think they are acting for the benefit of their loved ones but then oft forget to take into consideration the outcome of what they do.
Good luck to you, I think you are going to need it when you tell your wife. But I do believe it is the right thing to do. More harm will certainly come if you keep quiet and she finds out from other sources.
Sincerely,
Kytherea