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There are many obstacles and barriers that we have to face in life. We have the choice to confront them and overcome them or deny them and remain troubled. Many times it is the fear of the unknown that causes us to remain comfortable in our chaos. Let Kytherea help you face the unknown and guide you on your journey.
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Dear Kytherea,
I am a Gnome Mage of many seasons and my art of conjuration is quite extraordinary. And the shear power of my art has brought me many "allies" to call upon me when battle is upon them.
My problem is that my so called "allies" seem to poke fun at me over the fact that I have a passion for some of the taller females of other races. And this poses a real problem for me; that not only do my own people in Ak'Anon laugh at my attempts to win over the hearts of these taller women, I have to put up with my "allies" doing the same.
One occasion comes to mind, we were in a fierce battle in Stoneroot Falls, those Orcs were trying to keep us from continuing forward on our journey. This absolutely beautiful Wood Elf druid female was doing some very impressive damage in the fight. The way she handled herself in the battle made her seem even lovelier. After the battle was done and we continued our journey deeper, I preceded to talk to her. And at first my advances were very well received by her. The some of our "allies" began to poke fun at me for trying to get to know her on a more personal level. This seemed to really embarrass her, and she then quickly moved to the front to scout. Was it really my doing that scares the taller women away? Or the ridicule that seems to come with a Gnome being interested in her, and her feeling the same type of ridicule for having feelings toward a Gnome?
Please any help on the matter would be appreciated,
A Gnome with passion
Dear Gnome with passion,
Many times our friends will poke fun and tease thinking everyone realizes it is all in fun, but they rarely think about the feelings of those at the receiving end of their banter. I doubt the lady you were attempting to get to know better was turned off by you, but was embarrassed by your friends poking fun at you about it. It is likely that she was made uncomfortable by their teasing you and did not wish to cause you further grief and embarrassment as the subject of their jokes, hence removing herself from the situation.
My suggestion would be to find this lady and try to spend time in her company alone and get to know her. It is doubtful that anything you did caused her to feel uncomfortable or embarrassed. A little time alone, getting to know her though will definitely help in determining if there is any possible relationship and future together.
Sincerely,
Kytherea
Dear Kytherea,
I have a beautiful piece of land with a very comfortable tent on the outskirts of Halas overlooking the water and the Gwynevere making her journey to the edge of Everfrost every day. I love my comfortable little home! However there is a problem... My neighbor, who is an avid hunter, likes to leave his "trophies" all over his yard and often these "trophies" flow into my space. Now I am certainly not against hunting for personal need, I simply despise hunting for sport though and he seems to live for it. I think I could turn my head and ignore this practice he seems to enjoy so much if he would stop leaving the proof right under my nose.
How do I get him to stop leaving his "trophies" all over the place most specifically out of my yard? It really marrs the beauty I have worked so hard to achieve and the enjoyment I deserve from what I have gained in my life.
Thanks,
Frustrated Barbarian
Frustrated Barbarian,
Try talking to your neighbor about his "trophies"and ask him to keep them out of your yard. If he keeps his things in his yard, there is not much you can do to stop him from leaving his hunting spoils out for all to see, but you have every right to ask that he keep them out of your space. If there is a tent owners association, you might try appealing to them if he will not agree to keeping his "trophies" in his own yard.
If all else fails take matters into your own hands and dispose of anything that is over your property line. If it is in your yard it belongs to you by default and thus you can do what you wish with it. If it is good meat prepare it for yourself, if it is good hide utilize it for your needs. Turn his sport into good use for yourself.
Good luck to you, I think when you talk to him things may sort themselves out. Often people do not realize their actions bother others unless they are told about it.
Sincerely,
Kytherea